This is from Nanci Kreidman of the Domestic Violence Action Center (, in response to Monday’s column about Al Noga’s induction to the University of Hawaii Sports Circle of Honor. Most of you already “get it,” but I encourage all to read her take on this:

Aloha Dave,

These are always very interesting escapades …. selecting individuals for recognition, celebration and appreciation for their talent.

We have a ragged history with these selections. Heroes can be hard to find. The qualities that establish hero status are sometimes, in my view, totally off. Our political, faith based and celebrity landscape as well as our marketplace illustrate many examples of poor selections. The role models we hold up aren’t always what we make them out to be.

I can certainly understand why Al Noga hasn’t been selected for this honor before. It is said he has been held accountable, through the sentencing, or so we assume.

I am watching Leahey and Leahey right now. They were talking about your column and the talent displayed by Al Noga. The magic he displayed on the football field. Kanoa pondered whether he believes in a life sentence. Meaning, I assume, that he served his time, and so it may not be necessary to withhold the Honor.

Seems we are missing the point. Al Noga was not selected then for the honor, because he committed crimes, and violated one of, what I would consider a key rule. Number 5. It is pretty clear:

The nominee must exhibit strong moral character and discipline.

It is a good thing he has been working to get his life back in shape, and changing his behavior, while building his character. But does he deserve an honor for resuming a non-criminal lifestyle, and becoming a responsible member of his community?  We want to lift people, recognize people who possess strong moral character and live a crime-free lifestyle. Not those who rebuild themselves to reverse failings of character. The celebration of that is a much more personal one. He can take pride in his personal accomplishments.

Our communities need good role models. Let’s find them. Let’s define what a good role model is. Our children need them. It is good for the community and it is a principle for building a safe future.

Thank you for contributing to the community discourse on this issue.

Love, nanci


  1. obachan February 22, 2014 8:44 pm

    I respectfully disagree with Nanci’s view as I think her view represents an either-or argument. While it is certainly true that we honor people with strong moral character and crime-free lives, the same could also be said of people who rise above their past sins and over a period of time demonstrably become model members of the community. Such an accomplishment is not only a private matter but is deserving of public notice as well. In particular, the reformation of one’s character can instill hope to others who have likewise violated the community’s standards and serve as a role model to follow for regaining the community’s trust.

  2. obachan March 2, 2014 8:48 am

    Question for Mr. Reardon – does comment awaiting moderation also mean comment never see the light of day?

  3. A-House March 11, 2014 7:40 am


  4. A-House March 11, 2014 7:45 am


    Just look at our representatives in Congress – do they represent the people who voted them in or all the special interests that come into the office with multitude of offerings, gifts, etc.

    yep, it ain’t us – be you a “donkey” or “elephant”

  5. A-House March 11, 2014 7:46 am

    are my comments so bad or offensive that it warrants “moderation”?

    will this post also be “awaiting moderation”?

  6. A-House March 11, 2014 7:47 am


    btw, what is the “time frame” for posting comments or between comments to warrant a “slow down” message?

  7. A-House March 11, 2014 7:49 am

    HI Ho, Hi Ho it’s off to work I go,
    falalala, falalala, Hi Ho, Hi Ho

    the sun is out and clouds are gone
    Hi Ho, Hi Ho, Hi Ho, Hi Ho

  8. A-House March 11, 2014 7:50 am

    I’m honored that all my comments are “awaiting moderation”.

    now, I must wait – OK, one, to, tree, fo

  9. CubicleNoMore April 2, 2014 7:11 am

    Hiss, Meow, Hiss.Hiss, Meow on Chow these days. 😉

    NO Pilikia! Eh, no make “troubles” hah?

    posted: 4-2-14

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