The Baker said to Fred: “I’m making 15 apple pies that I’m giving away for free on Wednesday. Fourteen people already said they want a pie. I like you, and I’ll save a pie for you, if you want it. But if you don’t want it, that’s OK, there are several other people who will take it. Just let me know.”
Fred said he is interested. Fred then visited the bakery, had a sample, and talked to other customers about the Baker’s pies.
Later, Fred called the Baker and said he wanted the pie.
The Baker said: “Are you sure? I really want you to have it. But if you’re just being polite and you really don’t want it, it’s OK. I can find somebody else. No problem. You won’t be hurting my feelings if you don’t want the pie.”
Fred insisted he wanted it and would pick it up on Wednesday. The Baker said he would hold a pie for Fred.
On Wednesday, everybody picked up a pie except Fred.
On Thursday, still no Fred.
Same thing the next day.
Finally, Fred said, “Thank you very much for the offer, but I think I might look for a pie from somewhere else.”
The lesson: If you don’t want the pie, just say, “No.”